Someone once told me that there are no mistakes in life just life lessons. I have always been a perfectionist. Being raised by a single parent there really wasn’t any room for error. You had to get things done and get them done fast and without mistakes. As I grew older, no one is perfect. No matter how much my mother hated for me to make mistakes. I realized that you have to accept your mistakes, shortcomings, and unwanted events as opportunities. When this is done it lessens the stress in our lives. We all know we need to find ways to reduce stress.
It has taken me a long time to learn this life lesson and to accept that it is ok to make mistakes. I look at mistakes as small deposits. Well if it is a big mistake then a big deposits into our lives. Many times if we do something wrong or incorrectly we have a habit of beating ourselves up mentally over and over again. The fact is that when you make a mistake there is a lesson to be learned.
Now there are some people who refuse to think that they did anything wrong. I have been guilty of doing this at times. However, when this is done it merely means that they haven’t taken full responsibility for their actions. They will play the blame game, rationalize, have the woe is me mentality. They haven’t learned the lesson in their mistakes.
Here are 5 ways to embrace mistakes
- Be open minded to making mistakes.
Accept that you are only human and that each of us will do things we may regret. We may hurt someone’s feelings, make bad decisions. Be open to making the mistake. I will warn you they hurt a lot. But if you are open minded it will allow you to move on. As my mother use to say experience is the best teacher.
- Learn from the lesson
Behind every mistake there is a lesson to be learned. Denying mistakes or placing blame will only prevent you from learning the lesson behind the mistake. Instead start reclaiming your power. By accepting the mistake it shows a sign up maturity and a sense of gratitude.
- Ask Questions
Or should I say ask better questions. The most frequent question people ask is why is this happening to me? Perhaps the better question to ask is what can I do differently? Through asking the right questions you will be able to see the big picture and move forward to the next opportunity.
- Face your fears
Don’t run from your fears run toward them. Fear is a powerful thing that can leave you paralyze and leaving you with feelings of guilt and pain. Try writing down your fears and beside every fear write a positive affirmation. This won’t eliminate the fear but over time it will help boost your confidence and give you a sense of power over your fears.
- Accept Full Responsibility
Accepting full responsibility shows strength and courage. By doing so, you show a softer side of yourself that you are a caring person. When things are done poorly then you accept the responsibility that you can fix it. If there was a misunderstanding between you and someone else then you can gain a better understand. By maintaining awareness of how you are received in relationships with others allows you to make better life choices to avoid problems and misunderstandings in the future.