I remember it like it was yesterday October 2012. I made some major transitions in my life. The biggest one was I chopped off all my hair. I was going through some things in my life and just frustrated with the person looking back at me in the mirror. There was no turning back. I had to deal with the good, bad and the ugly within myself. I will never forget going to work the next day. I felt like a kid being picked on in elementary school but instead by overgrown adults. People would laugh at me, talk behind my back. Nevertheless, I pushed myself to look in the mirror every day to find reasons why I needed to love myself. This was the most painful time in my life. I didn’t love myself. I felt like I had to have all the makeup and all the wigs, and braids to be successful. Little did I know, it was the one transition in my life that started me on the path to success.
As I began to work on me as a person, I was introduced to de-cluttering by a close friend of mine. I had lost 20 pounds and was still wearing my same clothes. In my mind they still fit. Besides, I was thinking what if I gain my weight back. I can continue to wear the same clothes and won’t need to purchase any more. Little did I know, it was my old thinking process and clutter that was holding me back. That night my friend and I got in the closet and he started throwing away clothes. I remember crying and wanting to hang on to those clothes because of all the what if’s. He told me look,”if you don’t get rid of the old how do you expect to receive new?” He said,”your closet is full to capacity. You don’t even have room for new clothes”. After crying my eyes out I acknowledge that he was right. I gathered all the clothes and sent them off to Goodwill. My closet was so bare. I only had a few new items that actually fit my new figure. Not even a month later I started a job and was able to vamp up my wardrobe and created a new style for myself. That transition taught me a valuable lesson. In order to receive you must first have to let go of some things.
Fast forward to 2014, I launched my business Diamond N You. The same principles that applied when I lost weight applied to me building this business. I had to de- clutter my life. I began to de-clutter the house because it was going to be where I was working for the most part. I did a deep cleaning. I had moved from a three bedroom house to a two bedroom apartment. So needless to say I had a lot of stuff. You know how you hang on to something because some poor little soul just might need it. That was me. Some of these things I hadn’t seen in years. I threw it all away and those things that I could give away, I did just that, gave it away. For this time I knew for a fact that it worked because of doing it before when I lost all the weight.
If you want to be successful you have to let go of something in order to receive your success. An athlete has to train all the time, he gives up a portion of his social life. When a new mother has a child they normally give up their wants to take care of the child. When a person is serious about starting their business they give up sleep. Giving up things or in this case de-cluttering allows you to reduce stress and tells the Universe that you are ready to receive.
If you feel you are stuck and feel that you could be more successful if something changed, try de-cluttering your life. This goes for every aspect of your life. A successful business woman knows that it may take telling her friends that she may not be able to make every social gathering anymore. She may not be able to get 8 hours of beauty sleep. However, once you learn this simple principle then you will experience how liberating and free you are. You are able to make better decisions about your life. You are able to focus on the goals you are looking to achieve. Go ahead I challenge you to give it a try. You will be glad you did.